Ways of Overcoming Loneliness

Ways of Overcoming Loneliness

In the crowded world, where billions of people in close connection with each other through print or electronic media, it seems paradoxical that the loneliness has become a rapidly growing disease 21st the century. High-rise building, claustrophobic box like housing, stressful job and impersonal city life does not encourage sex. Instead they create doubt and fear of neighbors or strangers. Dependence on TV or on the Internet, people are reluctant to communicate with others, whether family or friends. They love to live vicariously through the lives of movie stars or television personalities and find no time for other relationships.

Loneliness is no respecter of persons. Young or old, literate or illiterate, rich or poor, everyone can be affected by loneliness. David Jeremiah called it a "disease of the decade." Many years ago, Thoreau said, "The city is a place where hundreds of lonely people living together ."

What is loneliness?

This is the sense of isolation even in a crowd, a desert that makes one feel unwanted and unloved, despair that no one cares and there is nothing to život.Osjećaj becomes acute during birthdays, anniversaries or festivala.Očima other people enjoy the sense of increasing of isolation.

All human beings at some stage in the life of a transient episode of loneliness. But these pass quickly when things change or remove the cause.

causes of loneliness:

• The company has become impersonal and gadget-oriented. Things are bar coded, and the people were numbered. ID cards, bank cards and credit cards, an identity, but does not encourage human interaction. Even the patient in the hospital identified a number rather than name.
• competitive world permitted only survival of the fittest. It makes people more selfish, the center itself, secretive and suspicious.
• Floating population due to frequent transfer or rapidly changing jobs does not leave time for a deep and lasting friendships. The loss of family, friends and familiar scenes to create loneliness.
• Loss - the loss of a spouse, children, friends or family causes pain izolira.Ožalošćeni feel hurt or abandoned. I felt isolated protected from further hurt.
• Loss of job. Only damage surfaces, because the others are better placed in life vis-à-vis the prestige or wealth.
• disease. HIV / AIDS, cancer or other terminal illness makes people feel isolated. They fear rejection or shame.
• low self-esteem is often seen in housewives. They feel threatened by working women and their achievements. Most people do not appreciate the work that goes into running a home. Young children further isolate the mother, leaving no time for social interaction.
• Guilt. Many complain about mistakes made ​​and the fear of repeating them again. Therefore, avoid the company.
• Leadership positions are often created solitude. There are demands on your time and energy. Decisions, if often lonely business. There is always the fear of facing the consequences of wrong decisions. They become easy targets when things go wrong. "To the President of the United States is to be alone at the time of making big decisions," said Harry Truman.Pisac Vicki Baum was of the opinion that "Fame always brings loneliness. Success is as ice cold and lonely as the North Pole."
• Intellectual loneliness. Albert Einstein felt that his intellectual brilliance set him apart from the rest and made ​​him lonely. "It's strange to be so universally known and yet to be universally so lonely," he said.
• The fear, especially among older citizens to attack the thieves and rejected by family and friends forgotten, makes them withdraw into themselves.

The consequences of loneliness:

- Physical: About 50% of heart patients showed that they were lonely and depressed before a heart attack. Scientists also claim that some kinds of cancer worse loneliness.
- Emotional: Depression and anxiety are higher among people who are lonely. Many are driven to suicide. Some indulge in over-eating, alcohol or drugs.
- Spiritual: total alienation from God, loneliness compounds. As Augustine, Bishop of Hippo said, "God created man for himself, and our hearts are restless until they find rest in him ."

Overcoming Loneliness:

Loneliness is universal, but it is succumbing to cowardice. One must rise above it. Loneliness can be differentiated from loneliness. Creative people like writers, poets and artists have long insulated themselves so that they can work undisturbed. This isolation is imposed only for the purpose.

The nuns are also looking for the solitude of his meditation, prayer and communion with God. Loneliness can be a constructive and renewal. But loneliness is a psychological and spiritual desolation.

is the first step, therefore,

- accepting the fact that there problem.Inicijativa must come from someone who is lonely.
- Deciphering the causes of loneliness and work toward eliminating them. Anger, hostility, hypocrisy and hatred are the emotions overcome before meaningful relationships can be built.
- Keeping busy finding ways of helping others or cultivating hobbies that will focus away from himself and loneliness.
- Working through grief and crisis situations experience. Only pity is a deadly poison. It takes away one of perspective and purpose in life.
- With regard to the leadership of a privilege, not a burden. Important people do not have to hide in the "ivory tower." Being available without affecting the others is a sign of a true leader.
- Exercise or listening to music can drive out the demons inside.
- Retirees should not feel isolated due to age and physical weakness. Age is the time to look for deeper meaning in life. There are communities that facilitate social relationship, friendship and sharing experiences. Creativity and spirituality can be rediscovered in old age.
- If loneliness is on the verge of depression or suicidal tendencies, professional help should be sought.
- The closer walk with God on a daily basis dispels loneliness. As the psalmist says: "Pour out your heart to God because He is our refuge and strength." Only when we have a right relationship with God can be linked effectively to others. Someone said, "To be left alone, without God is hell. But to be left alone with God is a foretaste of heaven ."

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